How To Criticize And Still Be Nice

Have you ever encountered an experience when someone told you

how fat you’ve become? Maybe your boss have commented on how

bad your work turned out to be. Maybe you’ve heard from other

folks how people view you as cold and unapproachable.

Hurts, doesn’t it?

Believe it or not, some people can be so tactless that they

are not even aware when they’ve hurt anyone’s feelings. The

receiving parties, especially the sensitive ones, would be

offended by their remarks. This would result in conflicts

and arguments.

You know you’re doing them a big favor by saving them from

shame or disappointment, but would they realize your good

intentions instead of feeling hurt by your brutally frank

comments or advices?

They might probably think you’re too rude or impolite.

But what can you do if you really need to assert an honest

criticism, but you’re afraid of hurting others’ feelings?

Want to know the secret?

All you have to do is sandwich your negative comment between

two positive remarks.

For example, your best friend Paul is going on his very first

date. He’s all excited and raring to go. Now Paul doesn’t

have any fashion sense. He’s wearing a bland shirt and old

jeans. You know all along how he hates to admit that he’s

wrong. So what will you do to save Paul from an embarassing

first date?

Would you say to him that the outfit he’s wearing is

repulsive? That would hurt his ego.

Well, you can first point out the things that you like in his

overall appearance. Comment on his well-groomed hair. Tell

him he looks cool when wearing his sunglasses. Ask him where

he bought his perfume because it can certainly attract women

like bees to honey. Be sincere and honest.

Then, insert in a nice and suave manner your point of view

and advice. You can tell him something like:

“Your shirt seems to be very comfortable to wear, Paul. Since

this is your very first date, I think Sandra (his date) will be

much more impressed if you would wear something like the outfit

that you wore on my birthday. You look smashing when you put

on clothes like that.”

Afterwards, make another positive statement. You could say

something like:

“You would definitely make a big impact on Sandra. She would

fall heads over heels over your gorgeous appearance and cheerful

personality. Have a great time on your date, Paul.”

Do you think Paul would be offended by such pleasant comments?

Not a chance. You have wittingly inserted a slightly negative

feedback into a plethora of acceptable and ego-boosting

remarks.

People love compliments. They believe they got the qualities.

They want other people to intensify the great abilities that

they believe to possess. People wanted to hear their greatness

purported from someone else’s mouth, and they would be very

glad if other individuals would know about it.

So if you want to criticize anybody, remember to praise him

first. It will leave a positive impression that you’re a

nice guy. Then say what you have to say, but in a smooth

and non-offensive manner. Finalize with another positive

reinforcement to establish a foundation of goodwill.

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Lieberman Introduces Bill Targeting Internet Freedom

Senator Joe Lieberman wants to give Obama and all future installed teleprompter readers in the Oval Office the power to shut down the internet. In order to hype the supposed national security threat posed by a decentralized internet, the independent Lieberman — meaning both establishment parties don’t want him — has spoken in near-apocalyptic terms.

“For all of its ‘user-friendly’ allure, the Internet can also be a dangerous place with electronic pipelines that run directly into everything from our personal bank accounts to key infrastructure to government and industrial secrets,” said senator Joe. “Our economic security, national security and public safety are now all at risk from new kinds of enemies — cyber-warriors, cyber-spies, cyber-terrorists and cyber-criminals.”

The “technoignoramus Liarman and his fellow kleptoplutocrats,” as Scott Evans describes them, are attempting to scare the plebs into accepting this First Amendment destroying legislation — not that it matters because, as Jim DeMint has revealed, these corporate and bankster commissars pass legislation in secret without the consent of the plebs they supposedly represent.

Cybersecurity is simply another stratagem contrived by the government to shut down the free flow of information. In a non-bizarro world where globalist control freaks would not be allowed to run roughshod over to Constitution and the Bill of Rights, network security would be the responsibility of the owners of those networks.

The Protecting Cyberspace as a National Asset Act was introduced by Lieberman, Sen. Susan Collins (R-ME) and Sen. Tom Carper (D-DE). It follows a similar bill introduced by Sen. Jay Rockefeller (D-WV) and Sen. Olympia Snowe (R-ME) which would allow the federal government to unilaterally “order the disconnection” of targeted websites. Rockefeller opined at the time we would all be better off if the internet was never invented.

Senator Joe’s bill is nothing if not another example of totalitarian government on steroids. “The bill would give a newly-formed National Center for Cybersecurity and Communications the authority to monitor the ’security status’ of private websites, ISPs and other net-related business within the U.S. as well as critical internet components in other countries,” writes Andy Chalk. “Companies would be required to take part in ‘information sharing’ with the government and certify to the NCCC that they have implemented approved security measures. Furthermore, any company that ‘relies on’ the internet, telephone system or any other part of the U.S. ‘information infrastructure’ would also be ’subject to command’ by the NCCC under the proposed new law.”

Imagine if you can what sort of “security status” this website would merit.

“It is alarming that so many people have accepted the White House’s assertions about cyber-security as a key national security problem without demanding further evidence. Have we learned nothing from the WMD debacle? The administration’s claims could lead to policies with serious, long-term, troubling consequences for network openness and personal privacy,” writes Evgeny Morozov, a Belarus-born researcher and blogger who writes about the political effects of the internet.

Joe has called for government control and censorship of television, so we can assume his “cybersecurity” jihad will not stop with the government micromanaging network security. He has a keen interest in deciding what the plebs can watch and presumably read on the internet.

It is not just Joe. It is also the FCC. Under the guise of protecting consumers, the Federal Communications Commission on Thursday voted 3-2 to open an inquiry into how the broadband industry is regulated. FCC Chairman Julius Genachowski proposed to place broadband services under the same regulatory framework as telephone service, which is more strictly regulated than broadband. In other words, more government control of the internet.

Finally, Lieberman’s bill would allow the government to force internet providers to “immediately comply with any emergency measure or action developed by the Department of Homeland Security.”

The Department of Homeland Security?

We know who these folks consider a threat to national security — constitutionalists, gun owners, returning veterans, and militias.

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URGENT ALERT: The Road to Shutting Down the Internet – - Texas Tea Party PAC

A new U.S. Senate bill would grant the president far-reaching emergency powers to seize control of or even shut down portions of the Internet.The legislation announced Thursday says that companies such as broadband providers, search engines, or software firms that the government selects “shall immediately comply with any emergency measure or action developed” by the Department of Homeland Security. Anyone failing to comply would be fined.

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